One of the mysteries of human relationship is that it takes two people to form a relationship and only one to break it. By almost every standard this is definitely ?not fair.? However, when we are old enough to experience and suffer the various fortunes of love relationships, we?ve already passed beyond the realm of life where fairness hopes to reign. Someone once pointed out to me that fairness exists only before we have the freedom to leave home. Fairness is now replaced by freedom. And it is only in this freedom that we can form true adult relationships of the heart.